Hear This: Feed Me Violins

I think the violin is one of the most beautiful sounding instruments.  Maybe someday I will learn to play it.

Paul Dateh infuses the violin into hip hop, top 40, and creates a unique voice in his original compositions.

Lucia Micarelli is not afraid to mix genres. Her repertoire ranges from classical to contemporary. I don’t have a clip of Lucia, but you can check out her music on her MySpace Page.

Enjoy! 🙂


The IT Girl

Do not be conformed to the patterns of this world… (Romans 12:2)

You would think that I would know by now that much of the philosophies and ideologies of this culture/society run counter to principles of faith, but at times I am a slow learner. So, let’s talk about her…the “IT” girl.

From a cultural standpoint a woman’s  worth is often appraised by her ability to turn heads. In the context of popular culture, this ability is often synonymous with sexuality.

Let’s face it.  Isn’t the typical heroine in the movies, videos, magazine covers often a plane Jane, book smart, baggy clothes wearing, math & science enthusiast. No?

So what does that mean? What happens when a girl is exposed to a lifetime of messages that say that her worth and value are summed up in her ability to sexually excite?

As Christian women, should that be our aim…to sexually excite?

Furthermore, who lives “that” life? How many women in your circle of friends are constantly being hit on? Given a continuous throng of flowers? Being flown to exotic locations?

To be realistic, there are women who do enjoy quite a bit of attention.  However, is that really the experience of most women? And should that be one’s aim…motivation? Am I, are we, comparing ourselves, our romantic lives to unrealistic expectations? I mean, nobody gets the guy every single time.

Perhaps my ideologies about attraction and romance are based on the fictitious genius of Madison Avenue.  Perhaps it’s time to conform to another point of view.

Shall We Dance

I used to take dance lessons when I was a little girl.  Unfortunately, I didn’t stick with it for too long, but I came back to it during high school & college. (In fact, I scored a gig singing & dancing in a Six Flags show my last semester at college.) All that to say, I’m on board with just about anything that includes dance.

I’ve been enjoying the new CW series Breaking Pointe.  It’s a little over the top, but there’s some great dance moments.

What’s your favorite dance show/movie?

Who You Are

Singleness is painful. And That’s Okay.

Well intended people may try to give you words of wisdom to ease the pain of singleness, but sometimes the most encouraging thing a person can do is listen to you, cry with you, and pray for you.

Dr. Who

Because I’m a fan (of the Russell T. Davies version)…

Because I may or may not have a slight crush on David Tennant…

Because I think it’s funny…

(This clip will make more sense if you watch the show.)

Why Didn’t You Call Me

Broken heart symbolBeen There Done That: He’s Just Not That Into You

Has this ever happened to you?  You see an attractive guy and by some miracle, he walks across a crowded room to talk to you.  The conversation lasts for hours.

By the end of the night, you’re convinced that the moment has finally come where you’ve met that someone special. But as the night draws to an end, he doesn’t ask for your number or your e-mail.  And in the days that follow, he doesn’t send a Facebook request or ask one of your mutual friends to set you up.  There’s just silence.

But despite the fact that he hasn’t made a move, somehow you become emotionally invested. So… you cyber stalk him, ask your mutual friend to set you up, or even get his number.  Unfortunately, as the days wear on, it becomes apparent to everyone else but you, that He’s Just Not That Into You.

So what gives? You would think we would know better. Why do self-respecting women repeatedly fall “head over heels” in love with a guy who clearly isn’t interested?

I think it’s because…

  1. It’s hard to be rejected. Sometimes it’s easier to live with false hope than to deal with the reality that the attraction you feel is not reciprocated.
  2. It’s hard to believe that you can intensely like someone who doesn’t like you back. After all, if you’re feeling a strong connection, it’s difficult to believe that the other person isn’t feeling the same way.
  3. It may seem like there’s a limited pool of potential dating partners. It’s been said that once you leave college, the plethora of potential dating opportunities diminishes greatly.  Well, it’s true. (Where else do you find a large number of people of similar interests, background, age, etcetera all in one place?) So when you finally meet someone who you click with it’s easy to hold onto that spark of attraction with a death grip instead of being casually nonchalant.

So, what’s a smitten girl to do in a situation where she meets a guy that has potential?

  1. Pray.  But be careful.  Don’t turn your crush into a spiritualized opportunity to become obsessed with the object of your affection.
  2. Wait. If you have the opportunity to interact with this guy on a repeated basis, give the situation a little bit of time.  Who knows, he might make a move.
  3. Talk to your friends. Your friends might have some insight into the situation.  (Perhaps he has a girlfriend, has a flirtatious personality, etc.)
  4. Ask him out without asking him out. Sometimes guys need a little help to know that there’s interest on your part. For tips on how to do this, check out Jason Illian’s article at Crosswalk.com-How To Ask A Man Out Without Asking A Man Out
  5. Enlarge your circle of potential dating partners.  When you feel like your options are limited in terms of meeting someone, it’s easy to become fixated on a guy who may not be a great fit for you. Perhaps go online, join a club, or visit a different singles group.
  6. But whatever you do, don’t cyber stalk him! It’s too easy to get caught up in an idealized fantasy of the man who you’ve created in your head. His Facebook quotes may be hilarious and his blog entries may be witty and profound, but if you don’t know him in real life, you don’t really know him.

All that to say, unfortunately, the old adage is true.  If a guy is truly interested, he will do something about it.  That doesn’t mean you can’t give a little nudge, but know when it’s time to move on.

Broken heart symbol (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Hear This

The Civil Wars: Barton Hollow

Style: If you’re a fan of bluegrass/folk/Americana, this group is for you.

If you get the chance to see them live, they are worth the price of admission.

Laws of Attraction…The Bad Boy

At some point, you will meet someone who will ignite you to the core.

It is what it is.

Don’t over-analyze.

Don’t beat yourself up.

Realize this: You can be sexually attracted to someone who you would never date in a million years and that’s ok.  🙂

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Hear This

Kimbra: Vows

I’m a sucker for a good vocal. This girl can sing

…and her music is fun to dance to.

In my head she sounds like: Bjork meets Christina Aguilera