Love…True Love…

You were there. Frenzied. Full of zeal.  A thousand strong you made the pledge…True Love Waits.  But you never thought that true love would still be waiting at the ripe age of 34. But here you are.

Chastity, your calling (1 Corinthians 6:18-20) should you choose to accept it, is hard. In a world where friends with benefits have become en vogue, you will be thought strange if you choose to forgo “IT”.

“THIS” is the silent elephant waiting in the room of singleness.  Few know this struggle, for few will choose to embark on the journey.

So if you burn, (1 Corinthians 7:9) you are normal. But know that you are not alone.

Books I like on this topic:

*Yes, the title is a Princess Bride reference.


Why Blog

I, like most people, had a tentative timeline for my life.

By age 30:

  • Go to college and graduate.
  • Become an international rock star.-No seriously, why else would I have majored in music?
  • Get married and have kids.

As you can probably guess, only one of those items got checked off the list.

(Although musical fame & notoriety has eluded me, I did get to have some cool musical jobs/adventures post-graduation.)

So here I am, 34, single, no kids. And like a number of women my age, I didn’t think my life would look like this. And like a number of women my age, there are times where this reality has been hard.

Being a single adult is a unique place to be. The older you get, the more you lose commonalities with your peers as they start to pair off and begin their own families.  In the meantime, the age gap of the people, who share the same station in life, becomes wider and wider. So at times, you can feel like you’re caught in between life stages.

When it comes to the church, unless you go to a place that has a heavy singles emphasis, you begin to become the silent minority that no one quite knows what to do with. And it doesn’t help that a large segment of the church population was married (sometimes with kids) by age 25.  Their recollections of singleness are often tinged with the carefree memories of high school/college adventures, 3 month summer vacations, and midnight study sessions at the local hangout. In short, some truly can’t relate. In addition, some don’t realize how desperately you are looking for guidance and/or how much you need someone to hear your unique story of struggles and needs.

So…some singles end up falling by the wayside, slowly, silently slipping out of congregations where they feel overlooked and neglected.  While others bite the bullet and settle for a relationship (marriage or otherwise) that’s less than ideal.

BUT…there are others who strive to make sense out of their unfulfilled longings. We are the ones who are holding out hope for the abundant life promised. We are the ones who are striving to not become jaded, bitter, or end up with a house full of cats.

So…my hope is that this blog can bridge the gap between marrieds & singles while providing hope, humor, and encouragement for all the single ladies waiting for the right one to finally “put a ring on it”. (If that’s what God intends.)

So…without further ado, comience la fiesta -Let’s get this party started. 😉

Ps. Men are welcome too.